The “belittling tongue” hit home the hardest! Belittling is defined as saying or thinking that someone or something is unimportant or not very good. 1
I would not eagerly admit to belittling people. But, by the time the author finished with her explanations and examples, I felt “guilty” had been stamped all over me! She got me best with the question of “Are your expectations of others so high that you focus on their shortcomings and not their assets?” *
“But I have something to say”, I retorted. And even when I don’t verbalize my thoughts about how they could be better, I am definitely thinking it.
So what scriptures can I use to squelched this one? I thought of Psalm 17:3 (KJV) “Thou hast proved mine heart; thou hast visited me in the night; thou hast tried me, and shalt find nothing; I am purposed that my mouth shall not transgress.”
I have the feeling I better start searching for several more!
Share your thoughts!
1. Go to the online dictionary, http://www.onelook.com
* See page 58 of 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue by Deborah Smith Pegues
Today has been some day and it’s not even close to being done!
I have had heard one bad tiding or encountered one difficult circumstance after another — from being challenged at work about my decision-making, to learning that a family member could be facing long-term financial challenges, to an acquaintance’s husband having died– all in a few hours time ! 😦
I kept thinking about this challenge. What should I say? How should I be thinking?
I can tell you that at the moment I have not become depressed. God has not had me completing this challenge for nought. I can only assume that I am getting hit all at once because He is testing or He is allowing Satan to test me.
I have failed a many-a-time before. But, by His grace, not this time. I plan by His grace to remain steadfast, focused, and believing He will care for me through it all.
Pray with me, won’t you!
Well, the eighth day’s entry was definitely a challenge for me – Day 10: the gossiping tongue- is not. I do my best not to gossip because in church circles I have seen the emotional fallout from those at the receiving end. Females usually burst into tears and males stand there fuming. In either case, you can see or sense the hurt and/or betrayal that has resulted.
I do not want to be the root cause of such fallout. No thanks!
I write this post because the author challenges us not to gossip at work as well as at home.
Are you doing what you can to make sure all of your environments are gossip-free zones*?
*See page 48 of 30 Days to Tame Your Tongue by Deborah Smith Pegues
The Self-Deprecating Tongue — well, here I fall very short!
Or, at least I need much work! I discovered within the last six months, that I am self-deprecating! That is, one who talks negatively about him or herself!
I don’t do this out loud! But in my head, oh man!
I got to stop the self-doubt in my mind. Saying scriptures and singing positive songs has helped!
What do you do to stop the negative vibes from within?
I’ve learned over the years not to have an “argumentative” tongue!
I do have much to say, but I don’t have to have a comeback all the time! There are times when you can hear a comment and you really can ignore it!
The scripture that does help me keep it together is the one that speaks of “having to give an account for every idle word! To argue for argument’s sake sounds like one is piling up many idle words.
What do you think?
Page 31 of 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue has, “Not only are we to refrain from causing division, we must also become active agents of peace, using our best efforts to reconcile parties in conflict.”